I will not go over the gruesome details (1) of the murder of Aasiya Z. Hassan, 37, who was found beheaded at the offices of Bridges TV in Orchard Park, N.Y., near Buffalo after filing for divorce from her husband, Muzzammil Hassan, 44, who has been charged with second-degree murder. Someone close to the case told me that there is another woman who may in fact be involved in the killing, so I caution my readers to wait until all the evidence is in before jumping to any conclusions.
However the case unwinds, it is a given that divorce for Muslim women is a difficult, dangerous process. For the great majority of Muslim women there is no choice in the matter, they were born Muslim and so they must marry another Muslim or suffer the pain of death, since marrying a non-Muslim dishonors the family. Even dating an infidel can result in an honor killing, which there are thousands upon thousands each year and which I decline to give links to since I want to keep this article down to less than 5,000 pages.
Not only must they marry another Muslim, many times they must marry someone they have never met and who later will abuse, torture, rape and murder them. Such is the life of a Muslim woman. Of course we are all familiar with the case of 10 year old Nujood Ali in Yemen who was recently granted a divorce from her husband who is more than 30 years old (2). I have previously written articles on Muslim Women in Denial over the barbaric and savage aspects of Islam. Certainly in the United States and in Europe one can find many instances of women being abused by their husbands. The difference however is that western nations do not have in their constitutions any justification for the beating of wives while the Qur'an has detailed instructions on why, how and when they should be beaten (3).
If you are a non-Muslim woman thinking of marrying a Muslim man, I wish there were words that would persuade you to change your mind, but I know that you have already convinced yourself, "What's the worst that could happen?".
As for the photo above, It doesn't matter which bride a Muslim man marries, he'll treat her the same.
America once had silly laws regarding divorce
When I was young (in the 1960s) many states in this country had archaic and silly laws regarding how one may divorce. New York for example had for almost 200 years required married couples to prove that one party committed adultery (and testified to by a third party) in order to obtain a divorce. And so it was that tens of thousands of couples obtained 'quicky' Mexican divorces that required only one day, only a few hundred dollars, and did not require any nasty finger-pointing. Even couples from other countries went to Mexico to solve their marital problems; we recall the 1963 Mexican divorce of Richard Burton who later married Liz Taylor who later married...
Mexico ended the practice in 1971 by requiring one party to be a resident for at least 6 months. People then turned to states like Nevada that only require 6 weeks.
However no one does it better than Muslim men in India. In the Islamic areas of India all that a man needs to divorce his wife is to say 'Talaq' three times (the Triple Talaq). Should the couple decide that they would prefer to stay married to each other the wife must wait 100 days, marry another man, spend the night with him, then be divorced by him before she can remarry her original husband.
A man may Talaq in his sleep, Talaq via SMS, or even Talaq while drunk (4). A woman may even get divorced if she is raped. In 2005 in a village in India, an Islamic court in a rape case ruled that a woman who was raped by her father-in-law had effectively divorced her husband by having relations with another man, and must marry the rapist (5). I actually have to write here that this is no joke, but thankfully she knew the man who raped her because if she had been raped by a stranger and did not have 4 male or 8 female witnesses she would have been put to death. India will have to rethink allowing Shariah courts to operate within its borders. There is pressure in the UK to allow Shariah courts to operate in Muslim areas. The poor Brits do not understand they are letting in a system that is primitive, barbaric, and egregiously contrary to the laws of their own country.
The practice of instant divorce by Triple Talaq is banned in several Islamic countries including Pakistan, Bangladesh, Malaysia and Indonesia. In those countries each utterance must be separated by at least 30 days. But the instant Triple Talaq continues in India.
The founder of an upstate New York TV station aimed at countering Muslim stereotypes has been arrested on suspicion of killing his wife, who was beheaded, authorities said.
Muzzammil Hassan was charged with second-degree murder after police found the decapitated body of his wife, Aasiya Hassan, at the Bridges TV station in the Buffalo suburb of Orchard Park, said Andrew Benz, Orchard Park's police chief.
Hassan was arrested Thursday.
His wife filed for divorce February 6, and police had responded to several domestic violence calls at the couple's home, Benz said.
On Monday, Benz told CNN that Hassan went directly to the police station after his wife's death Thursday and confessed to killing her. However, Benz on Tuesday denied that he'd said Hassan confessed.
Time Magazine, A 10-Year-Old Divorcée Takes Paris
Nujood's ordeal began last February, when the family gathered to celebrate her wedding to a motorcycle deliveryman in his 30s. She first set eyes on the groom when she took her marriage vows. After spending her wedding night with her parents and 15 brothers and sisters, Nujood was taken by her new husband to his family village, where, she says, he beat and raped her every night. After two nightmarish months he allowed her to visit her parents, who rebuffed her pleas to end the marriage.
Nujood finally found her moment to escape one day, when her mother gave her a few pennies and sent her out to buy bread. Instead she took a bus to the center of the capital, Sanaa — a city of 3 million people — where she hailed a taxi and asked to be taken to the courthouse. She had never been inside a courtroom but had once seen one on television, she says, and knew it was a place where people went for help. There she sat silently on a bench, uncertain as to what to do, while crowds of people scurried past, scarcely glancing at the quiet child. It was only once the courthouse emptied during the lunch recess that the judge noticed her and asked why she was there. "I came for a divorce," she told him. Horrified, he took her to his house to play with his 8-year-old daughter, and granted the divorce two days later.
In fairness to more modern Muslims I should mention that there are some in Yemen who think this practice of marrying young women is indeed primitive and barbaric.
Following are excerpts from an interview with the Mufti of Egypt Dr. Ali Gum'a, which aired on Al-Risala TV on May 26, 2006:
Ali Gum'a: Wife-beating is associated with the cultural status of women in the different societies. Women in some cultures are not averse to beatings. They consider it as an expression of masculinity, and as a kind of control, which she herself desires. In other societies, it is the exact opposite. We must follow reason. When we are dealing with certain societies...
I got a question from Canada. The man said: "Here, it is a crime to beat a wife, even with a toothbrush. Is this prohibition acceptable in Islam? Yes. Islam accepts that the beating of Canadian wives, in this culture and ambience... From childhood they are taught that beating women is a type of barbarism, savagery, and so on. There is nothing wrong with taking this into consideration, and adapting to society, because Islam did not command us to be aggressive towards women....
But when Allah permitted wife-beating, He permitted it to the other side of culture, which considers it as one of the means to preserve the family, and as one of the means to preserve stability.
(4): Talaq During Sleep:
Planck's Constant, The Triple Talaq (divorce) and Arabic Dyslexia
Village elders ordered a Muslim man in eastern India to leave his wife after he accidentally divorced her in his sleep. Aftab Ansari uttered the Urdu (The Arabic version of Hindu) word for divorce, "talaq," three times in his sleep, prompting his worried wife to discuss the matter with her friends, according to the Press Trust of India news agency.
divorce by text message
Photo Credit: PM's World
BBC News, Malaysia permits text message divorce
Getting a quickie divorce has taken on a whole new meaning in Malaysia after it was decided that a man can divorce his wife with a text message.
The government's adviser on religious affairs, the man who counsels Malaysia's Prime Minister Mahathir Mohamad, said as long as the message was clear and unambiguous it was valid under Islamic Sharia law.
"SMS is just another form of writing," Dr Abdul Hamid Othman was quoted by the New Straits Times daily newspaper as saying.
The decision follows a Malaysian court's ruling on Thursday in favour of a man who served divorce on his wife via a text message.
Talaq while Drunk:
Another question is, if a husband is completely drunken and unconscious and beat his wife and he says talaq three times, will the marriage end? According to Dar-Ul-Ifta, talaq given after drinking in state of intoxication is valid in Hanafi sect. “Now, the husband can not marry her without Sharai halalah,” Dar-Ul-Ifta ruled.
(5): Talaq Due to Rape:
Washington Times, Women challenge India's Islamic law
Having given Muslims the right to follow their own religious laws in the Shariat Application Act of 1937 (including polygamy and triple talaq), India's courts are now rethinking this delegation of authority. Meanwhile, among India's Muslims, women are becoming educated and starting to demand their rights from a grudging religious establishment.
Last year, the Supreme Court of India ordered that the Islamic court system, known as Dar-ul Qazas, be examined and possibly dismantled in response to a public-interest lawsuit claiming that the religious courts are subverting the judicial system.
The complaint and continuing inquiry began after a ruling by a village-based Islamic court in a rape case caused a national furor. The court ruled that a woman raped by her father-in-law had effectively divorced her husband by having relations with another man, and must marry the rapist.